Men With Incontinence: Treating and Managing

Men With Incontinence: Treating and Managing

Men's Incontinence Is Common and Treatable

Urinary incontinence -- when you can't control your bladder -- can make you feel embarrassed. Across a range of UK studies, the prevalence of any incontinence averages out at around 40% for women and 10% for men. Despite what you may have heard, it's not a normal sign of aging. It's a treatable condition.

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Stress incontinence happens when activity such as bending, lifting, or coughing puts pressure on the bladder and triggers leaks. 

Urge incontinence, caused by the bladder contracting when it shouldn't, triggers a sudden and overwhelming need to urinate. The feeling is so intense that it's hard to make it to the bathroom in time. 

Mixed incontinence is a combination of stress and urge incontinence. 

Overflow incontinence happens when you're unable to completely empty your bladder and you leak unexpectedly. 

In men, incontinence can be brought on by medical conditions like an enlarged prostate, diabetes, and Parkinson's disease. It can be common after some types of prostate surgery, too. Sometimes it can develop for reasons we don't completely understand, like overactive bladder (OAB). To get you the right treatment, your doctor will need to find the cause of your problem. 

Some men have success by spacing out their fluid intake during the day and cutting back on liquids a few hours before bed. If that helps, stick with it. But don't restrict yourself too much -- you could become dehydrated. Not drinking enough fluids can lead to complications such as bladder infections, which can make urinary incontinence worse.

Think Before You Drink

For some men, caffeine seems to irritate the bladder and worsen symptoms. Coke and other carbonated drinks could have the same effect. Alcohol is a diuretic -- it makes you pee more, which is the last thing you need. Cut back on tea, coffee, fizzy drinks, and alcohol and see if that makes a difference for you.

Adjusting Your Diet

Many men say spicy or acidic foods can make urinary incontinence related to overactive bladder worse. Others say it helps to stay away from chocolate and artificial sweeteners. The specific triggers vary from person to person. Some people find that diet doesn't seem to have any effect. To find out, keep a food diary to track possible triggers. One at a time, try cutting back on them for a week each to see if your symptoms change. 

Reducing Stress Can Help

Life with incontinence can be stressful. Simple relaxation techniques, like breathing exercises or meditation, may help you cope with symptoms. Biofeedback is another approach -- you watch a monitor that gives you real-time information about muscle contractions around your bladder. With time, you can learn how to relax your body, ease your muscles, and maybe get control of your symptoms.

How to Train Your Bladder

Try using behavioral techniques such as bladder training. Start by going to the bathroom to pee every half hour, whether you feel the urge or not. As you get into the rhythm, gradually -- over days or weeks -- expand the time between bathroom breaks. Eventually, you may be able to space breaks by 3 to 4 hours and the urges in between may decrease.

Track How Often You Urinate

To help find the cause of incontinence, for a few days keep a record of how much you drink and how often you pee. Make note of any leaking, along with anything -- drinking a lot, heavy lifting -- that might have triggered it. Bring the record to your doctor's appointment. It will help your doctor better understand your symptoms and could give clues about the cause.


Flex Your Muscles

In men, Kegel exercises can help boost the strength of pelvic muscles that help the bladder to hold urine. Kegels are easy to work into a daily routine. Start by finding the right muscles -- the ones you'd use to stop yourself from passing wind. Then just tense, hold, and release. Slowly build up until you're doing three or four sets of 10 of these each day. You can do them lying, standing, or even sitting at your desk.

The product you choose should depend on your symptoms. For severe urinary incontinence, the ideal choice may be highly absorbent guards or disposable underwear. Men with milder symptoms may need less protection. Drip collectors are disposable padded sheaths that go around the penis; they're good for slight leaking or dribbling. Pads can be tucked into underwear and attached with adhesive tabs. They're designed for light to moderate leaking.

Why Incontinence Pads Help

Lots of men balk at the idea of using pads or disposable underwear. But not only do they stop leaks, they can protect skin from irritation and block odour. Best of all, they can help you regain confidence. You may be surprised at the number of product options. Unlike the big, bulky "adult nappies" you might imagine, today's incontinence pads and undergarments are designed to be comfortable and unnoticeable.

For men with urge incontinence, medications may help. Some relax the muscles to help prevent unwanted contractions of the bladder. Others block the nerve signals to the bladder that make it contract at the wrong time. Drugs prescribed to shrink an enlarged prostate can help with other urinary problems. Drugs like diuretic "water pills" can actually trigger or worsen incontinence.

BPH - Enlarged Prostate

Benign prostatic hyperplasia is a very common condition in men. Unlike other organs in the body, the prostate gland continues to grow during every man’s lifespan. The prostate grows gradually after the age of about 50 and by the age of 70, approximately 8 out of 10 men have an enlarged prostate.

When the prostate becomes enlarged, surplus prostate tissue presses down on the urethra (a thin tube that carries urine from the bladder out through to the penis). Like a kink in a hose pipe, this means the man will have some or all of the following symptoms: a weak flow of urine, the feeling of not having emptied the bladder properly, and the urgent need to go to the toilet.

There are different treatments available and it is worth checking with your consultant what surgery options are available. If a chance you are interested in is not available at your hospital you can ask for a referral to a hospital where the surgical option is performed.

Types of surgical procedures.

TURP (trans-urethral resection of the prostate) 

Green Light Laser


Prostatic Urethral Lift, or UroLift, is the least invasive surgical treatment for benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH) or an enlarged prostate. - This includes a page for patients to find out more about BPH, the treatment options and learn more about the UroLift procedure - direct link for patients to search for UroLift trained surgeons based on location. 


Rezum is a minimally invasive transurethral water vapour therapy for benign prostatic enlargement which uses thermal energy for treatment.

There are different treatments available and it is worth checking with your consultant what surgery options are available

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If you're always anxious about leaking, you can start to feel worn down. Your social life may suffer. You may not even want to leave the house. If this is what your life has become, you can change that. Look for a support group such as Bladder Health UK or call our Advice Line 0121 702 0820.

There are also many educational websites run by corporates who are keen to help you to understand how to treat your condition.

 Or go back to the doctor and see if there's something different you can try. Remember, incontinence is almost always treatable.

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Lifting the lid on male incontinence

This report is the output from 2 surveys carried out during the Summer of 2023. One survey was for sufferers and the other was for industry - including commercial outlets that would normally provide touilet facilities i.e. sports venues, shopping malls, theatres, motorways services, and government buildings (public toilets)

How can BHUK help you, if you join us?


Members Magazine "Your Bladder Health", published 3 times per year.


An excellent booklet written to provide practical help and advice.


Telephone Advice Line – 0121 702 0820


Telephone contact - with a BHUK Phone-Pal and fellow sufferer.


Comprehensive Resources - fact sheets, DVDs, lending library, Can't Wait Cards and much more.


Message Forums- exchange personal experiences of bladder illness with others.


Social Media sites including Facebook @BladderHealthUK and Twitter #bladdersupport

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